Sensitive people to avoid or to care??

Two birds were twittering and as I drew near, they fell silent..."What?" " Oh nothing! Just a little gossip..see that lady over there? Apparently she is very sensitive so it is best not to speak to her too much but if you do,careful what you say...she might take offence, You might hurt her."

I looked at the demure lady, sitting alone...She was polite, she was pleasant but certainly on the reserved side , but so what?? She's being just her. I asked my friends , "Is it only you guys on this mission or what? "Hell no," they laughed, "everyone has been warned to take care and not to break the glass". "Oh dear! "Hey guys, I think you people are on the wrong track, doing more harm than good ..if you go around doing things like that  you will be  alienating her for then no one dare go near her. Everyone is like."distant yourself, keep your distance"  and she will be left without friends-  a dusty framed picture placed high up in that top shelf!  Not that she needed this type of friends though! What brought this on?

"Not sure, it could be  xxxx aiyah! Just  handle with care  lah!." Not sure, it could be? Do you guys know that your actions have  turned her into porcelain. There is this created  perception fixed on her image-highly fragile -stay away. But is she really that fragile for goodness sake?

Guys, consider, we often talk about "this person is sensitive" ," that person is really sensitive" but what is your definition of sensitive and really sensitive? How true is true?? Has the whole picture being misconstrued? Perhaps the person who started the crusade  is actually the sensitive one or misguidedly read too much into the situation, whatever that is. Whatever it is, my belief is , his intentions are noble, and pure, only unintentionally harmful in the long run.

To divert a little, let me give you an example -  as a blogger , when I'm touched by something I read in the main stream papers, what I see around me.. xtra, I would take that as a topic  to post a little write up ..I may raged and rant a little, but can that be classified as sensitive? Yes and no..depending on your own level of sensitiveness and your understanding of the total situation. What about   people's natural conclusion, the ones who know you in person??.."Someone is giving her a hard time ...she is angry with someone..." "She is in need of help" extra. YT says, be grateful and thankful that people are concern for you. Reach out to appreciate them but  never allow people's feelings, care and concern to prevent you from writing what you feel -Think- to Hell , who cares what people think? If you care so much what people think, then, you cannot write!" And writers write in order to bring in the awareness, the education, and yes the sheer love of writing!!

But  broadcasting that a person is very sensitive and telling people around her to be on alert mode all the time is destructive, because you have planted a negative seed into another's mind and that creates a barrier to friendship and relationship. That creates fear in another's mind. My own thinking???"Aiyah...stay as far away as possible to avoid trouble." Yours Truly says, Peace  people...it is much better , more healing, and  kinder to allow that person to be herself...but you on your part be more understanding, friendly and caring. The mission should be.".let us make her feel more at home in our circle, community, let us show her, we are real  friends.."....

Remember guys,  being sensitive is good because..foresight comes into play...you consider, you discern and you act accordingly, you have the right degree of feelings to dispense care . But I do agree "Too Sensitive"  is not so good. If you are too fragile, you will probably be left in a safe corner -all alone, covered in dust. And that is exactly what you guys are doing!! See the danger, the harm you're doing?? You are not helping, you are widening the gap,  preventing free and easy flow of communication-creating negative energy around this person!! Not so good huh??

SO guys..my advice..Quit that mission of  the behind the scenes,  ninjas - it is more helpful, more effective...it is more caring to shower warmth, thaw the cold off the other person ...help that  person  lose her fragile state, lead her on to  become stronger!!  Alternatively, patiently, allow her to test her own footing and learn in the process. That is showing sensitivity ,that is the meaning of  true friends!! Love you guys!!