Attention, Affection and Appreciation -those are the values sorely needed in today's modern families, so say the visiting priest to OLL this evening. .I think you hit the spot Father. It is now the in- trend , the fashion, to be parents in absentia. ..I don't know if that is the correct word to use for parents who substitute their presence with money and gifts..to make up for lack of parenting and practice of good family culture. .But then, everyone does it, it has become SO NORMAL and the THING to do- work! work and more work for Money!Money! Money!!!!- It has become Modern Culture.A necessity!!
No choice, people tell me, either you are out there working your butts off, or your family suffers. The logic is that money is not only the revolving force , it also feed the wants. If you do not have money, you are in no position to provide and if you do not have money, you cannot give cherishment.(spelt with a Big M ) and nowadays, kids and family do expect cherish and love spelt in BIG $$$$$$., so what to do??? Neighbour has a big car, 60 inch TV xtra...
Frankly, we are living in a very materialistic world .
so how do we strike a balance?? That's for you to reflect and come up with the answers. We chase after money-so hard that we do not have time to correct our own mistakes, let alone our kids' and straightening out the crookedness in them ...so we just let it be... We come up with reasons -like "times have changed...we need to move with the times" "those values were old fashioned" ....and so these age old good values, which ultimately bring in respect and goodness and holds the family unit together -slowly and surely get erased out from our daily language and living space. In the near future...perhaps even the traditional family values of honouring father and mother may disappear as well. It has already started, people tell me...long ago lah!..yet others say. Is that the reason behind the mess and the clutter in our today's living??Everything evolves in a circle...a cycle.. Be aware people!!
If you do not make an effort to integrate the three "
A"s into your relationship with the people around you, teach your children how to value them, ( teach by example ) then I guess, they will never know how to value and apply them to the people in their lives...YOU!!! Remember, they learn from you. If you do not value good culture and tradition, they learn to discard them and you along with it.What values have they got to teach their own kids, and ones coming after???
Good topic indeed - to talk about and reflect before 2013 comes marching in. Perhaps 2013 is a good time to reinstate good family values, reapply them , teach our kids to discern and know right from wrong...start with loving God and family. May be basic lessons but basics worthy for the preservation of Family and Home, the Institution of Marriage. and the sanity and worthiness of our future generation..